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Jan 27, 2021

Hey, Heifers! Do you ever stop yourself from pursuing a job, activity, or a trip because “that’s just not something you do?” Have you ever seen people wear hats and thought “wow, I wish I could be a hat person” but never questioned why not? It’s really easy to create rules for ourselves that prevent us from going after the things we want in life. A few of mine, for example, include being the person who bikes everywhere, rocking a freelance/contract gig, or becoming a solid dAnCeR. All of these things are in my “I wish I could” category, the “but I could never for really no reason" list. In this episode, I go through some personal examples of when I broke my toxic life rules I burdened myself with and how I built up the courage to do so!


00:00 Yeeeeehawwwww

 01:36 What are these self-made life rules?

02:08 The Life Sabbatical Update Segment! Now that I’m on my rumspringa, I’m going to update you each week with what I’m doing as an unemployed diva. This is mostly so I keep myself accountable but I want to document my journey so you can learn from my mistakes (or my wins. Yes. Positivity.). 

06:55 Your Life Rule Book - what rules have you made up for yourself that may not be true? 

11:18  How trying to wear lipstick changed my LIFE (dramatized for effect).

14:41 How adopting my dog sooner than I thought I should be allowed to changed my LIFE (again, continuing to add flair).

15:16 The obvious one - how quitting my job CHANGED MY LI- (we get it, plz stop).

16:40 Things that still seem wrong, like moving out of state or to a different coast. I could never do that, right? Mmmmmright?

18:06 You can always try something out and if you don’t like it, you can go back to what you were doing before! Trial and error.

19:15 Pros and cons lists are helpful but sometimes you just gotta go with your gut instinct. Here’s how I developed my intuition.

22:05 Fear of the unknown can inhibit you. Do research!

23:20 But don’t get too caught up in the details! There will always be “more” to dive into, and until you do the damn thing, you can’t really know what it will be like for you. Alas, you can’t always Google your life.

24:06 For some reason, I gave you homework: Make a list of things you’ve always wanted to do but ruled out because it just “wasn’t something you do.” Research for 10-15 minutes what you would need to do to make it happen. See if this is something plausible you could start to work toward.

25:18 Outro! You did it!


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I am not a health professional. I am simply someone who was diagnosed with an anxiety and depression disorder. Please talk to your friends, family, teachers, doctor, trusted human, etc. if you need help. I also have a resources page on my website that can direct you to different hotlines, therapy websites, and more at